Self-sabotage: the invisible villain in our life stories

Everyone is determined to improve their life in some way:

• Maybe they want a new car

• Maybe they want overcome homelessness  

• Maybe they want to step into a leadership role

The desires can lead to action but the transition the transition from reality to another isn’t managed holistically. The underlying reason for this is self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage takes many forms. The most common one is when a person makes an objective but without viable actions to work towards it.

For example, someone claims, “I want to make 1 million dollars!”. Then that person makes the claim to everyone around them, but this desire doesn’t have any actionable steps.

How is that person going to make 1 million dollars? Through aggressive investments? Through inheritance? Through their bi-monthly salary? What timeframe do they make it in? Who keeps them motivated? Because the objective wasn’t broken down into achievable steps and allies weren’t identified, the person self-sabotaged themselves.

To intervene with self-sabotage, the person could consider co-creating their ‘how’ with a coach. Let’s look at the ways a coach and client can co-create:

• A coach creates development plans based on a client’s goals, contexts, habits, and breakthroughs

• A coach keeps momentum as a client works towards their goal

• A coach holds a client accountable when clients don’t achieve their chosen, timeboxed goals

• ·A coach cultivates a safer space to break to the client’s deep-seated, negative perceptions of themselves
  

If this person took their goal of making 1 million dollars to a coach, a goal setting session can take place. The coach would ask the best questions to break down the objective into many achievable ones.

In 2021, Forbes published “How This 27-Year-Old Made $1 Million Last Year”, an article that looks at Michelle Schroeder-Gardner’s success. She outlines her success in an interview format, including living habits.

Imagine if you were the one interviewed by Forbes. How would you answer?

Don’t let self-sabotage keep its hold over you. Consider how coaching can make your dreams into a reality. Take the first step and fill out the contact form, so we can explore how to co-create your future.

I look forward to hearing from you!